Ask Lola Rolls
Sunday, November 29, 2020
Let Us Give Thanks
Dear Lola, I was fortunate enough to spend a beautiful, quiet Thanksgiving with my family. Thanks to the pandemic, this was very different from our normal routine where we have 20 or so friends and relatives gathered around the table. Even though we are fine and healthy, I spent most of the day feeling sad. […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 4:42 pm
Friday, October 30, 2020
Home for the Holidays
Dear Lola, Every year, we travel close to a 1,000 miles round trip to visit family for both Thanksgiving and Christmas. And it’s great to see all the parents, cousins, and grandparents! We eat and talk and exchange gifts. We argue too, but I’ve always just chalked that up to being part of a big, […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 8:11 pm
Wednesday, September 30, 2020
Election Stress
Dear Lola, Stress about the upcoming election is really doing a number on my mental health. I feel it’s important to stay well informed, but watching and reading the news makes me feel overwhelmed and helpless. Social media makes me want to scream. Would it really be so wrong to just put my head in […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 12:44 am
Wednesday, September 16, 2020
When You Can’t Remember What You Did Wrong
Dear Lola, Like everybody else, I haven’t been able to socialize as I usually would with my friends. Last week, it occurred to me that I hadn’t had a one-on-one chat with a particular friend in what seemed like a long time. We would see each other during group happy hours over Zoom and were […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 6:21 pm
Tuesday, August 25, 2020
A Great, Awful Job
Dear Lola, I have a really, truly great job that I’ve really, truly grown to dislike. It took a lot of education and hard work to get my current position. For a long time, I was very proud and satisfied with that. It also helps that I get paid a fair amount of money. Fifteen […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 2:52 pm
Sunday, August 9, 2020
Better Off Alone
Dear Lola, Before the pandemic hit, I started dating someone, and we decided to quarantine together. Even though I still maintain my own residence, my partner and I (he is a man, and I’m a woman) are essentially living together. It’s safe to say that our relationship progressed more quickly than it would have under […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 2:37 pm
Thursday, July 23, 2020
No End in Sight
Dear Lola, I thought things were getting back to normal with the pandemic. Certain things had opened up in my state. In comparison to the misery of lock down, life felt better and easier. Now, come to find out, my kids won’t be returning to in-person school this fall. I think I might lose my […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 10:26 pm
Sunday, July 12, 2020
One Crud Ball is Enough
Dear Lola, I dated a man for over two years. Let’s call him Crud Ball. At the time, I had really high hopes that we would get married and have kids. CB was reluctant to commit though because he couldn’t be sure we would be happy in the long run. I tried very hard to […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 10:23 pm
Monday, June 29, 2020
Puppy Love
Dear Lola, My boyfriend and I don’t spend enough time together. We’ve both been pretty isolated and live in an area where the coronavirus is largely under control, so we feel comfortable being together. The pandemic isn’t the problem. It’s his standard poodle. He never comes to my apartment because his dog doesn’t like to […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 6:37 pm
Saturday, June 20, 2020
Wizarding World Weed
Dear Lola, Like lots of people, my girlfriend and I are bored AF. We’re watching a Harry Potter marathon. She thinks she is a Ravenclaw, but I’m sure I’m a Hufflepuff. Are we doomed? Also, we’ve been smoking lots of weed. Are we high? –Hufflepuff Pride Dear Hufflepuff, The fact that you are both […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 11:26 pm