Relationships
Friday, October 30, 2020
Home for the Holidays
Dear Lola, Every year, we travel close to a 1,000 miles round trip to visit family for both Thanksgiving and Christmas. And it’s great to see all the parents, cousins, and grandparents! We eat and talk and exchange gifts. We argue too, but I’ve always just chalked that up to being part of a big, […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 8:11 pm
Wednesday, September 16, 2020
When You Can’t Remember What You Did Wrong
Dear Lola, Like everybody else, I haven’t been able to socialize as I usually would with my friends. Last week, it occurred to me that I hadn’t had a one-on-one chat with a particular friend in what seemed like a long time. We would see each other during group happy hours over Zoom and were […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 6:21 pm
Sunday, August 9, 2020
Better Off Alone
Dear Lola, Before the pandemic hit, I started dating someone, and we decided to quarantine together. Even though I still maintain my own residence, my partner and I (he is a man, and I’m a woman) are essentially living together. It’s safe to say that our relationship progressed more quickly than it would have under […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 2:37 pm
Sunday, July 12, 2020
One Crud Ball is Enough
Dear Lola, I dated a man for over two years. Let’s call him Crud Ball. At the time, I had really high hopes that we would get married and have kids. CB was reluctant to commit though because he couldn’t be sure we would be happy in the long run. I tried very hard to […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 10:23 pm
Monday, June 29, 2020
Puppy Love
Dear Lola, My boyfriend and I don’t spend enough time together. We’ve both been pretty isolated and live in an area where the coronavirus is largely under control, so we feel comfortable being together. The pandemic isn’t the problem. It’s his standard poodle. He never comes to my apartment because his dog doesn’t like to […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 6:37 pm
Saturday, June 20, 2020
Wizarding World Weed
Dear Lola, Like lots of people, my girlfriend and I are bored AF. We’re watching a Harry Potter marathon. She thinks she is a Ravenclaw, but I’m sure I’m a Hufflepuff. Are we doomed? Also, we’ve been smoking lots of weed. Are we high? –Hufflepuff Pride Dear Hufflepuff, The fact that you are both […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 11:26 pm
Friday, May 15, 2020
How To Act Like An Adult — Even During a Pandemic
Dear Lola, I’m 27 and had to move back home. This wasn’t by choice, but I lost my job because of the pandemic and couldn’t afford rent. Now I’m stuck in the house with my parents ALL DAY LONG. And they nag me constantly. My mother goes on a daily tirade about the messiness of […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 2:50 pm
Wednesday, May 6, 2020
When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Exist
Dear Lola, I met this great guy online, and things are really serious between us. We haven’t met IRL because he lives overseas. Given the current craziness in the world, who knows when that will happen now? In the meantime, I’ve been doing my best to be happy with texts and telephone calls. Things were […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 8:20 pm
Tuesday, April 28, 2020
Don’t Be Like Carol Baskin
Dear Lola, What advice do you have from living in a circus for those of us who are now home bound following “stay at home” orders and are frustrated by the too-close-for-comfort proximity of loved ones in the same house? Our adult sons are home for the foreseeable future, and it’s a juggling act of […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 7:21 pm
Monday, April 6, 2020
Swindling Your Own Mother
Dear Lola, About 10 years ago, my mother gave me a significant amount of cash from her retirement savings for a down payment on a house with the understanding that she would live with me when she retired. I was 25 when all that happened, and a lot has changed since then, not the least […]
Posted by Barbara Boehm Miller at 6:19 pm