Barbara Boehm Miller
Fiction writer and creator of the character, Lola Rolls

Relationships

Wednesday, September 16, 2020

When You Can’t Remember What You Did Wrong

Dear Lola, Like everybody else, I haven’t been able to socialize as I usually would with my friends. Last week, it occurred to me that I hadn’t had a one-on-one chat with a particular friend in what seemed like a long time. We would see each other during group happy hours over Zoom and were […]

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Sunday, August 9, 2020

Better Off Alone

Dear Lola, Before the pandemic hit, I started dating someone, and we decided to quarantine together. Even though I still maintain my own residence, my partner and I (he is a man, and I’m a woman) are essentially living together. It’s safe to say that our relationship progressed more quickly than it would have under […]

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Sunday, July 12, 2020

One Crud Ball is Enough

Dear Lola, I dated a man for over two years. Let’s call him Crud Ball.  At the time, I had really high hopes that we would get married and have kids. CB was reluctant to commit though because he couldn’t be sure we would be happy in the long run. I tried very hard to […]

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Monday, June 29, 2020

Puppy Love

Dear Lola, My boyfriend and I don’t spend enough time together. We’ve both been pretty isolated and live in an area where the coronavirus is largely under control, so we feel comfortable being together. The pandemic isn’t the problem. It’s his standard poodle. He never comes to my apartment because his dog doesn’t like to […]

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Saturday, June 20, 2020

Wizarding World Weed

Dear Lola, Like lots of people, my girlfriend and I are bored AF. We’re watching a Harry Potter marathon. She thinks she is a Ravenclaw, but I’m sure I’m a Hufflepuff. Are we doomed? Also, we’ve been smoking lots of weed. Are we high? –Hufflepuff Pride   Dear Hufflepuff, The fact that you are both […]

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Friday, May 15, 2020

How To Act Like An Adult — Even During a Pandemic

Dear Lola, I’m 27 and had to move back home. This wasn’t by choice, but I lost my job because of the pandemic and couldn’t afford rent. Now I’m stuck in the house with my parents ALL DAY LONG. And they nag me constantly. My mother goes on a daily tirade about the messiness of […]

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Wednesday, May 6, 2020

When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Exist

Dear Lola, I met this great guy online, and things are really serious between us. We haven’t met IRL because he lives overseas. Given the current craziness in the world, who knows when that will happen now? In the meantime, I’ve been doing my best to be happy with texts and telephone calls. Things were […]

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Tuesday, April 28, 2020

Don’t Be Like Carol Baskin

Dear Lola, What advice do you have from living in a circus for those of us who are now home bound following “stay at home” orders and are frustrated by the too-close-for-comfort proximity of loved ones in the same house? Our adult sons are home for the foreseeable future, and it’s a juggling act of […]

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Monday, April 6, 2020

Swindling Your Own Mother

Dear Lola, About 10 years ago, my mother gave me a significant amount of cash from her retirement savings for a down payment on a house with the understanding that she would live with me when she retired. I was 25 when all that happened, and a lot has changed since then, not the least […]

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Thursday, February 27, 2020

Dating at Work

Dear Lola, To be honest, I’m not sure a former sideshow fat lady is the best person to advise me, but I tried submitting my question to Carolyn Hax, and she didn’t publish it. There’s a guy at the office I’d like to date. We’re both at the same job level, so that’s not a […]

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