Barbara Boehm Miller
Fiction writer and creator of the character, Lola Rolls

Ask Lola Rolls

Sunday, June 14, 2020

Feral Children

Dear Lola, I have a good friend, let’s call her Jane, who is lots of fun. Our kids all go to the same school, so we have that in common. The problem is that her children drive me insane because they’re so poorly behaved. For example, the one and only time we all went to […]

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Sunday, May 31, 2020

Afraid of Getting Fat

Dear Lola, I hardly ever leave the house, except to go to the grocery store. My only entertainment is ordering takeout and drinking wine with friends online. My eating is basically insane right now, and I’m gaining weight. I’ve never been fat in my whole life, but I can’t seem to stop myself from overeating. […]

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Friday, May 15, 2020

How To Act Like An Adult — Even During a Pandemic

Dear Lola, I’m 27 and had to move back home. This wasn’t by choice, but I lost my job because of the pandemic and couldn’t afford rent. Now I’m stuck in the house with my parents ALL DAY LONG. And they nag me constantly. My mother goes on a daily tirade about the messiness of […]

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Wednesday, May 6, 2020

When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Exist

Dear Lola, I met this great guy online, and things are really serious between us. We haven’t met IRL because he lives overseas. Given the current craziness in the world, who knows when that will happen now? In the meantime, I’ve been doing my best to be happy with texts and telephone calls. Things were […]

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Tuesday, April 28, 2020

Don’t Be Like Carol Baskin

Dear Lola, What advice do you have from living in a circus for those of us who are now home bound following “stay at home” orders and are frustrated by the too-close-for-comfort proximity of loved ones in the same house? Our adult sons are home for the foreseeable future, and it’s a juggling act of […]

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Saturday, April 18, 2020

Fat, Bored, and Lonely

Dear Lola, Like everyone else in the U.S., I’m stuck inside working from home. I’ve done the Zoom happy hours and WebEx meetings. Nobody expects this to really take the place of human contact, but it doesn’t even come close for me. I’m bored, bored, bored. And all I do is stuff my face with […]

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Monday, April 6, 2020

Swindling Your Own Mother

Dear Lola, About 10 years ago, my mother gave me a significant amount of cash from her retirement savings for a down payment on a house with the understanding that she would live with me when she retired. I was 25 when all that happened, and a lot has changed since then, not the least […]

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Wednesday, March 11, 2020

Depression After Weight Loss

Dear Lola, My weight has been an issue my entire life. Things got really bad after college when I hit 350 pounds. I felt tired and out of breath all the time and fell into a deep depression, which only made the problem worse. I had gastric bypass surgery about two years ago and reached […]

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Thursday, February 27, 2020

Dating at Work

Dear Lola, To be honest, I’m not sure a former sideshow fat lady is the best person to advise me, but I tried submitting my question to Carolyn Hax, and she didn’t publish it. There’s a guy at the office I’d like to date. We’re both at the same job level, so that’s not a […]

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Thursday, February 20, 2020

Let’s Talk About Something Else

Dear Lola, For as long as I can remember, my mother and I have been at war over my weight. When I was a kid, she used criticize what and how much I ate and then she would fill the house with snack cakes and cookies. She used to show me the boxes so she […]

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